My Background and Experience

Counsellor in Wallington, Surrey

My background is in nursing, and I left a 20-year nursing career in the NHS after experiencing my own emotional troubles, including relationship stress and work burnout. Both having a negative impact on my life and well-being. Having my own counselling/therapy gave me a new sense of freedom that I had not experienced before. Experiencing a secure relationship without conditions and feeling like I mattered was life changing. It was like wearing a new pair of glasses, seeing things I couldn't see before, opened up to choices I was unaware I had (like X-Ray vision). I felt such a strong sense of empowerment to take control of my life and decided I wanted to do the same for others.


I took a 4-year training pathway to become a qualified counsellor and have not looked back. My counselling career has included working in a low-cost counselling service with clients who were struggling with difficult life issues such as problems at work, imposter syndrome, relationship breakdown, low self-esteem, bereavement. Others had common mental health issues such as anxiety, depression or struggling with overwhelming emotions.

I have also worked in an NHS service (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies/IAPT) for people with anxiety and depression. More recently I have moved further into private work.

Counsellor in Wallington, Surrey
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My Counselling Approach


I have a particular interest in attachment and how powerful our mind and body connection can be. Emotions can become dysregulated and overwhelming when we feel misunderstood. My work has involved helping people understand the links between what their mind and body is trying to tell them, so that they can have a greater understanding of their life experience and how they have reacted to that. I believe there is useful meaning in how we feel, but many of us have never been taught how to connect to or regulate how we feel. If you would like to talk to someone who is easy to talk to and passionate about helping others understand their own needs, please get in touch.